I Was Poly Before I Knew It

(written on 9/27/2022)

Polyamorous Moment

FLASHBACK

So my freshman year in college,

1. I had my ex

2. A guy I wanted to date

3. And a guy I was sleeping with (fwb)

   
   

All desiring me in some way or form.

And they were all friends.

And they all knew about my dynamics with each of them.

And one day we were all in the same apartment together which me and my girl friends definitely giggled over. (They were there too. No freaky stuff lol)

Cause while it was empowering to be desired by these 3 men and have them all in the same vicinity...

It also meant a lot to me that they still were all friends even though they were all interested in me.

And I ended up dating the guy, and when we broke up, went back to sleeping with my fwb.

So needless to say I was still connecting with each of them over the years and they remained friends.

• But it was then that I learned that there didn't need to be hostility.

• There didn't need to be a possession and ownership mentality.

• That it was okay to have connections.

• That it was okay to be connected to multiple people.

However those who knew of me and the friend group definitely thought I was easy and being "passed around."

But not only did I not partake in the sexual shaming of women nor that toxic ass viewpoint men had of women,

Not everyone was blessed with my kitty.

Which actually was made even more apparent when the cousin of my fwb was talking to him and my 2nd ex about wanting to have sex with me (men really don't care about being with the same woman).

So this guy is literally talking to two guys I had actually been actively sleeping with at the time, with zero chance of getting my kitty lol

(There were reasons I chose my sexual partners.)

All that to say, nonmonogamy was definitely present in my life when I was solely experiencing men.

And as two of those men I had romantic connections with as we actually had committed relationships at one point, and I'd say an emotional connection with my fwb, polyamory was also present unknowingly.

But it was also a real kitchen table dynamic because they were all friends.

Which was actually really nice.

And a really great experience to have.

I thank those men for it.  (I'm in a good place with all of them today even though we have since gone our separate ways)

This scenario took place 7 years before I discovered polyamory and ethical nonmonogamy.

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